So I’ve been chatting a lot with the gorgeous Madam Anya that I referred to in my last email – or perhaps its more appropriate to call her a Princess.
Or a Queen … a true Queen!
We were chatting about men in general – and relationships last night, and one of the things she told me was that she wasn’t that good at relationships – and why?
“Because I get too jealous. I’m controlling!”
And this, of course wasn’t a surprise to me – and as my you know what stirred – big time (though to be honest, I was “leaking” a long time ago!!) she continued explaining.
And what she said made perfect sense. She’s been with men that cheated on her – men that promised her the moon and gave her nothing – and men that constantly (and this irked her the most) kept talking to their EX’s – behind her back – or in front of her, saying “it’s just friendship now!”
And I can understand her way of thinking.
If a man harbors a “spark” for his ex – there is likely a sexual element to it somewhere.
Not so for a woman. Madam Anya is good friends with a married man – but there is NO sex involved in it – and while money might have been an “indirect” consideration (or subconscious consideration) – sexual attraction isn’t – and ’tis the same for most women that are “just friends”.
Women don’t think with their “little brains” – men do – women don’t even have ’em!
But anyway – it was a great, great conversation – and one I could well put into a book about “What not to do in order to attract the Dominant Lady of your dreams” – and funnily enough, most men, even those that claim they’re “truly submissive” are guilty of MOST, if not ALL the above.
This morning when I woke up (after an incredibly inspiring dream, by the way) – here is what I told her –
Good morning, Madam Anya! You’re a true Goddess! (giggle, giggle).
I enjoyed our conversation last night a lot. Although I haven’t bought you anything – as yet – and although we don’t know each other well – as YET (remember, I’ve only been speaking to her for one day, and yet – the VIBES – the sheer VIBES – make it feel like I’ve known her a lifetime!) … I love your thinking!
And to me, this is what it all boils down to – – her thinking!
She was complaining that most men liked her body – and nothing else – and for me, it’s the opposite. I’d rather probe her MIND first – and if she’s interesting on a mental level (which for me means oh-so-deliciously – and NATURALLY – dominant – then that is all I need – the rest is ancillary!).
And the rest, funnily enough is exactly what I prefer on a lady – right down to those lovely feet of hers. 😉
Yoga feet. Sweaty feet. Feet clad in high heels .. and the like. You get my drift!
Anyway, I’m not sure I’ll be worshipping her – as yet. 😉
For one, I’d like to move a bit slower than I have in the past – and two – she prefers gifts – but not just shoes, clothing and jewelry.
She’s an older lady (which I love!!) – smarter (which I love even more!) and she’s much more into investments and property … and while I’m not averse to that sort of servitude, hey, I’d like to get to know her a bit more!
That doesn’t mean I won’t soon be begging her to accept my “smaller” gift – to start off with, of course. I did so with Madam Pearl, and she accepted … and the rest, as we know, is history – chronicled right here – https://spicyanderoticfetish.com/books/submissivemusings/!
I’ll keep y’all posted on how it all goes!
And so it goes, my friend. If there is one – or many – takeaways from this email – it is what NOT to do when approaching – or talking to – or even thinking about – a dominant lady!
We truly attract what we think about and believe at the deepest levels. It’s just as simple as that.
P.S. – “15 ways to give him a ruined orgasm” is one nifty little manual on the site that is selling like hotcakes. If you haven ‘t yet picked it up – do so now – you’ll truly find a GEM in each tip therein!