Something I’ve written about a lot in all my writings is the topic of “if you’re TRULY submissive” as opposed to it being simply a “kink” – or as opposed to being a “switch”.
It’s an interesting topic indeed, but more than that, believe it or not – whether or not your TRULY submissive – and TRULY want to (note – this is different from “am” or “are doing right now”) serve a dominant Lady as she deserves to be – has a very important part to play in terms of attracting the right women into your life.
I have often spoken about (and written about, hehe) the various dominant Chinese ladies I’ve met in my life – and get this.
NONE – I repeat, yes, NONE – of these ladies came into my life as a result of any direct or even thought out effort!
It was all truly a case of me attracting what I thought about – and FELT – at the very deepest levels of my core, and those vibes ended up attracting ladies that FELT the same way (whether they knew it or not).
And so it, is it any wonder that I’ve had all the experiences I have had – and the somewhat (as people say!) different and “enthralling” life I’ve been privileged to have thus far?
And in that regard, of course – a huge, huge thank you to ALL the ladies I’ve been involved with until now. None of this would be possible with you!
A huge thank you also to all my readers – and fans – and loyal followers on social media etc – I would not be where I am today with your support, either tacit or “direct”!
And now, for the “are you truly submissive” test.
Last night I was at a social gathering of sorts – something I did NOT enjoy one darn bit if just for all the fake “glam and glitter” around me (I’m sure you know what I’m referring to, eh?).
It was one of those so called “highbrow” events where “look” is way more important than anything else – and the term superficial comes to mind when I think about it.
But amidst all that, amidst all the nonsense, amidst all the folks gorging on unhealthy stuff, taking selfies etc … something stood out.
What was that, you ask?
Well, there were a ton of ladies – heavily made up ladies, and most of them on the heavier side as well physically, hehe, and nigh all of them looking GORGEOUS to a “T”.
I still remember a group of 40 something year old ladies taking selfies as a group … and that is what sparked me to bring this post to you.
Where do you instantly LOOK – or want to look?
What thoughts run through your head?
Note I’m talking about thoughts “on the spur of the moments” (along with associated feelings that you don’t think about – you just experience!).
I’m talking about your first reaction – impression – and thoughts!
The nature and SPECIFICS of these thoughts, and a few more could well determine if you’re truly a submissive or not! (and there is nothing wrong with either option, of course).
For me, the first thing I look at when I look at a woman is NOT her breasts. NOT her legs, although that’s a pet favorite of mine. I look at her feet – and thats the first detail that sticks in my mind.
After this, it’s her hands – her eyes – and her ASS … all not necessarily in that order!
Whether or not she is overweight or not matters now. Her financial status matters NOT. Her make up – or lack of it – doesn’t really matter either.
All that matters to me in terms of initial impressions is that LOOK in the eye – that naughty GLEAM – and her VIBE – and if it’s even in the slightest way dominant, well, I’m HOOKED.
Most men, including subs tend to describe women as “having big ….” or perhaps “not in good shape” or … any number of other things.
That isn’t necessarily bad, of course, but a true sub?
A true sub would probably never ever think of those things – and his first thought would be one of dropping at her feet – kissing them – carrying her bags – and generally humiliating and debasing himself galore in front of her!
A true sub would probably NOT think of sex – if ever at all. I know I don’t – and I’m far happier being denied – and my own pleasure, strange as it might sound, originates from worshiping her sexually in bed – and giving HER freedom to do as she pleases with other men!
I posted this on Twitter a couple of days ago, and I’ll post it here again –
And that is truly how I feel – and how any REAL sub should feel!
When I see a lady, my only “sexual” thoughts are to serve her – and in bed, it’s only my tongue in her ass – as she relaxes, and enjoys – and perhaps prepares for a real man to ravage her thereafter!
It’s always about HER – and always about her having the best of both worlds, in other words!
And so forth.
Get into that sort of mindset – and STAY there – and you’ll be attracting female dominance to you like “moths to a flame”. Yes, there is a reason I mention that on the homepage!
Ok, my friend. That is IT for now. I’ll be back again later!
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